It goes like this: I help people. I like to help people because it is the nice thing to do and everybody needs help with something at some point.
I happen to know how to work photoshop. Because of this I've offered help on a few projects, things like wedding sign in books, nothing big. I'm happy to help people out. I really am. I even sort of like creating this kind of stuff (because it is NOT typical cut and paste and glue and stamp scrapbooking, just so you all know I draw the line there, I hate that kind of stuff). It is on the computer and that is different.
So I decided to help a friend out with her wedding sign-in book. And it was kind of fun to do. That is until I spent hours (I mean HOURS) on this thing and she says, well, I like this, this and this, but this page, this page, and this page do not work, and I want more pictures of us dating in there blah blah blah.
WHAT!? Honey, I made this for you out of the kindness of my heart. I mean, I understand that this is your wedding and all you ever dreamed of blah blah blah. But I gave up HOURS of my time. I did not charge you other than you have to pay for the actual book. Just who do you think you are? That is not okay. It is rude. If you wanted your book to be something specific, then first off you should have given more direction in the beginning. And if you weren't quite sure, you should have been paying someone who does this professionally rather than being a cheapskate and relying on your friend's kindness.
Beggars can't be choosers. Anybody heard of this phrase?
If we are supposed to help out our fellow man and that is being Christlike, then what is the protocol for when they walk all over your kindness? I guess it is turn the other cheek. But that is really hard sometimes.
So, yeah, you can call me doormat.
